para Ace_Hitman :I have and I do attend local events thanks to fetlife; it's just a limited pond of dying fish really (metaphorically) - since not all people attend and it's hard to reach them in due to time.
:) it's just taking so long in between. heh.
Try joining the bdsm community for real. They have something known as "Munches", which is where you can join in a safe non threatening down low environment. Most big cities have them such as Fort Worth and Dallas. Im sure will find what you're looking for there.
From the look of your status you need to be tied up bound wrist and ankle naked in onky stockings and high heels on your knees like a good sub.
Ready to give pleasure every way Sir desires or be put over a knee and have that sexy bare ass and pussy of yours spanked like a naughty girl ;-)